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15 January 2012, 9:30 pm

Girls, girls, girls...

I'm probably hated for my sharp tongue at times.. Which is a potential reason as to why i have never had a boyfriend before. But see.. I see so many people have boyfriends because they want someone to depend on, or because it boosts their image and self-esteem. I'm not a bitter 20-going-on-21-year-old girl, i swear. I'm happy where i am and i don't see why i should jump into a relationship if it's not with someone who loves me back the way i love him. I've been forced by someone before but that was in secondary school where - admit it - we were all pretty immature still. But i gave him a firm no and he backed off. Anyway, i hate it that some girls enter a relationship because it makes them feel good about themselves. You don't need anyone to tell you that you are strong, beautiful and worthy to be someone's. Hold your head high! Be proud of who you are, for being you, for being able to stand for yourself. You don't need anyone to tell YOU. You only need YOU.

There are certain exceptions though. I talked to mum about it and she opened up my mind to the fact that some girls probably don't have a family to depend on at home, which i am extremely grateful for despite having occasional fights. But yes, it's probably the reason why people go into relationships.

Don't get me wrong. I do dream of becoming someone's special one someday and it would be a great feeling.. I feel as such because i've never been in a relationship and even though i've heard and seen a lot of the ups and downs of relationships (through friends, etc), i hopefully would share that with someone i will spend the rest of my life with, insyaAllah. Which brings me to the topic of religion as well. God laid down rules that we should not date or be too close with the opposite sex because there will always be a 3rd party involved (that being Satan). God also forbids sex before marriage and more things along those lines. Isn't it a good thing? Why do people see it as a restricting law that the Almighty has instructed us? By staying chaste, it makes everything that's part of what people call LOVE, special. Specially for your special one. No?

Regarding the topic on how i feel we girls should not base our self-esteem or whatever based on how many guys like us or how many guys want to be with us, i'm not implying that we should be single forever. God has already chosen someone for us all. So why not wait a little for that special someone? I know i've had posts feeling the opposite. We all want to have someone to love. But don't let the reason of yourself going into a relationship with someone be the reason of boosting your self-esteem or a part of succumbing to peer pressure.

It's probably also due to my upbringing, that i think as such. I've blessed with a family who hears me rant and a mother who's taught me to be an independent lady, a father who will make sure that the guy is right for me (i joked that he might scare him off... HEHEH) and a brother who will fight for me till no end.

So yeap.. I'm sure the wait will be worth it, insyaAllah. Place your trust in Him and He will show you the way. He promised that He has someone for everyone. So believe it, believe Him. InsyaAllah, we will all find our soulmates. If not here, maybe in Jannah, insyaAllah :)

, osn.

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