Everytime i talk to my mum, it's always something about the future. Take for example yesterday while shopping, i told my mum that i wouldn't pressure my child in future by comparing his/her results to that of my friends' children or their classmates. I don't think that's a way to motivate them. INSTEAD, i will only use it occasionally to tell them that they can do it if others can. My mum always told me,"If others can do it, why not you?" Yeah she may have compared my results to others before but not too excessively. I believe every child has his/her own ability and talent. I also never believed that scolding and nagging would be a method of motivating a child. It will only make the child feel worse and demoralised - maybe even threatened. Again, not too excessively. After typing all these, i think i sound almost neutral. Then again, i think i'm more against than for.

I've been raised strictly and even till now that i'm 18, my parents have never really relaxed the rules they've laid out. It's not like they came out with a list of rules and pasted it on the refrigerator; but it's more like they constantly remind us and thus make us remember how they want things to be. My dad has been very strict with both my brother and me. I will not deny that him being strict has worked on us both but at times i think it is too much. Dad has always been strict on us being hygienic, courteous and things like that. Mum on the other hand makes sure that we take our religion seriously and that we constantly gain knowledge without losing touch and forgetting God.

What my mum told me before: being a parent is difficult. I think i'm starting to see and understand why she said that. I never gave it much thought but now that i'm older, i start to think towards the future. Even though i've said all that above, the final decision doesn't really lie on mine. My mum ALWAYS remind me,"You don't know if your husband thinks the same way as you." Fine. That's fine with me. But part of me does not agree with that. For example, i really do not accept the fact that "women/wives are responsible for cleaning the house, taking care of the baby, etc etc." I believe that as long as you are living under one roof, everyone has to make an effort to make the house clean and all that. I believe that when you're married, you need to share all the responsibilities. How can a woman work at home and go out to earn money all by herself? The people at home has to help out. Not to mention take care of the baby. T_T Although i admitted that i'm an old-fashioned person, there is still this bit of me that screams a modern girl. In this age, i don't think a woman should do everything especially if she's a working mother. However, my mum is the exact living example. That's why i admire her a lot and call her a Superwoman. I help out when i can but nowadays, i get really pissed off when others don't. Don't get me wrong, i'm not trying to be calculative.

Look, everyone's tired. We're all the same. Yet we're not putting in equal effort to make things right. Aren't we all living under one roof? Is one wrapper that you left on your table SO DIFFICULT to pick up and throw it in the bin?... It doesn't make any sense. I even think that it's so disrespectful that you leave your litter around when one of us just swept the whole house.

Yes. I think that's disrespectful.

I don't know how many people read my blog but after typing this, i'm sure some guys don't want to marry me already. *evil smirk. But hey, that's me. I believe in fairness and equality. (Whoever says Islam is not equal really hasn't read up on what God has said about women) Ok sure, you may say that guys are stronger than women and have more power and authority. But don't bring that into this topic. My rule is: Everyone living under one roof has to contribute and make an effort to do whatever needs to be done.

On a totally different topic,

GO REDS. I still have belief in you. You've let us down one too many times. Make us proud of you again tonight, please.

PS: This is just my opinion, please respect that.
PPS: You, no more. Maybe that dream was telling me something afterall (: Weeks of pondering. I've finally come to a conclusion of my feelings. It never really started actually.
PPPS: Not a fan of Harry Potter. But i slacked and watched the Half-Blood Prince D8

, osn.

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